My approach is tailored to the individual situations of my clients and their needs.  It is not a cookie cutter approach. Instead my approach focuses on the uniqueness of the histories which clients bring to their relationships.

Many emotions are common to all relationship challenges such as frustration, discouragement, anger, hurt, sadness.  Each person presents certain beliefs and coping styles that may challenge their partner. These differences surface in miscues and misunderstandings and may eventually result in feelings of distance and hurt. However, they also present opportunities for learning, growth and intimacy. Individual responsibility and growth are essential components to enhancing relationships. 

I work with couples to raise awareness of their individual obstacles and how these affect their relationship patterns. Often their communications are based on assumptions that are not checked out and then they are acted on as if they are true. This potentially creates an emotional reaction in their partner such as defensiveness, withdrawal, or aggression.  Why? Because of the assumption that they know their partner’s intentions. Not only can they be wrong about this but it is unfair to make such an assumption without checking with their partner to determine if they are correct.  

I assist clients to uncover their communication style and guide and provide education to help them become better communicators. I am comfortable working with couples of all cultural backgrounds, beliefs and sexual orientations to resolve what may be negative and non-productive relationship patterns. Through this approach, couples are helped to develop skills for framing and maintaining healthy and loving relationships.